Harassment and Unwanted Attention

Recently, I have decided to take 2 weeks off from my CD social media and soft delete (closed) my blog to cool off and lay low as I was getting harassed and unwanted attention on these channels. Actually, I wanted to take some time off my alternate life as the recent episode of moving my lair really set me thinking... Is it a sign from heaven to stop me from CrossDressing and to focus more on my normal life? Anyway...

Despite that I am sharing my personal stuff on my blog, I am still quite a private person in general. I shared my experience and my CD journey "publicly" as I hope that my blog can some day be a resource for fellow CrossDressers. By sharing my stories and thoughts, I hope I can relate to other CrossDressers and some of their encounters or predicaments that they may be facing while on their CD journeys. I hope to reach out to them, letting them know that they are not alone and what they are experiencing, someone else had gone down that path before.

Back to my recent unfortunate events... Ever since I started posting photos of my make-up facial shots on social media, I became more cautious of what I post online and who I approve as friends or followers. My rules are quite simple, I only add or approve requests from fellow CDs. I written it as a rule on both my social media accounts but yet I am still getting requests from men who are friends of friends with some of those CDs that I have approved or added. 

As a rule of thumb, anyone with a profile picture of a man, or with user name that sounds like a man. I will not approve the request. For those with profile picture without head but dressed in female clothing, or even if the profile picture is a woman or potentially a CrossDresser, I will still have my reservation due to the rampant use of FaceApp or photoshop to edit their photos. In this internet and social media age, it is hard to trust people online. Only for those that I feel potentially safe, then I will approve the request. And for those who cannot understand my basic rules that I only accept requests from CrossDressers, I will just block them. In fact, I blocked quite a lot of those who tried to add me as friends because I do not feel comfortable sharing my photos with them. Who knows what they wanted my photos for and I feel that it is intrusion of my privacy. One of the thing is that I do not want people to leech my photos and pass it as themselves.

Even though I shared my CrossDressing photos in social media, it is more for other CrossDressers to see and admire. I do not get a lot of likes but that is perfectly okay as I just wanted to share it with some of my CDs friends whom I never met. However, there were times when the friends of my CD friends, mainly guys, who will see my photos and then try adding me as a friend or try to send me a message. I am okay if other CDs comment or like my photos but I never feel comfortable having guys liking or commenting on my photos on social media. Some guys can claimed that they do crossdress but never have any photos. That does not hold as people can claim whatever they want on internet and there is no consequences or repercussions. However, for CDs like us, showing our faces, even though covered with make-up, can still run the risk of been outed. That is why I have to be extremely careful when it comes to online stuffs. 

I believe other CDs also have their own fair share of harassments or unwanted attention, maybe others got more interesting encounters to share. I will just to share some of the messages that I received over the years on my Facebook. 

Case 1: Gloves Lover

There was this guy who is a gloves admirer but I just block him, and he messaged me privately that he will block me in turn. Well, not sure which part of "Accepting on CDs" does he not understand? Good riddance, that is very much what I wanted, guys off from my profile. Thank you very much. 

Case 2: The one who cannot keep his private private...

This was the most recent episode and the one that really pisses me off. This guy was on my friend list somehow. I guess I got deceived by the profile picture but I just keep him there as he "seems" quite harmless initially. There were frequent "Hi"s but I just cannot be bothered to make small talks with people who I do not feel connected. Just a fortnight ago, he sent me picture and a video of a private part, not sure if it is his anyway. 

To be honest, I feel quite indifferent to it as what he has, I also have. But what irks me is this type of disrespectful behaviour. People do not run around showing others lewd pictures or videos, let alone someone who is a total stranger to you. Imagine in real life, having to show your private this to a lady when they are both not even close, he deserved one BIG FUCKING TIGHT SLAP in face. 

Anyway, it was this incident that set me on a social media and blogging shut down frenzy. Not that I am afraid or offended but I just feel so tired of having to block, ban, ignore all these attention seeking pricks and wanted to "disappear" for a while.

I have already set my privacy on my social media accounts to private but still I am getting requests like once a while. I was also contemplating on moving my blog to a more private and secure platform and only friends whom I shared my password are allowed to view and read. I guess for worst case scenario, I might just delete my social media and this blog for good... Just wondering how is Isabelle and Gin or other CDs managing this... Or maybe I should be more specific like this CD, who was previously on my Facebook friend list...

Oh well, does feel good to rant it out. Hopefully this can help me to continue blogging, sharing and CDing. Cheers.